Graduation Speech

"I would trade all of my technology for an afternoon with Socrates."
—Steve Jobs


 The Ultimate Graduation Speech

The 21 things we should have been told at graduation. 

Published on April 8, 2013 by Neel Burton, M.D. in Hide and Seek

 

The education that we pay for barely prepares us for the challenges that lie ahead. 

1.  The best education is not that which enables you to make a good living, nor even that which enables you to make a social contribution, but that which enables you on the path to freedom and individuation, and which, in the longer term, leads to the fullest living and the greatest social contribution.

2. Always ask for plenty of advice, but only from people whom you admire or seek to emulate. Best of all, seek advice from great works of literature and philosophy.  Shakespeare and Plato are far wiser than anyone you could ever meet.

3. On the other hand, don't give advice unless you are specifically asked.

4. Keep asking questions. People may look at you funny, but at least you thought of the questions.

5. Be sensitive to your feelings and intuitions. They are your unconscious made conscious. And they are almost always right.

6. Don’t be envious. Whenever you come across someone who is better or more successful than you are, you can react either with envy or with emulation. Envy is the pain that you feel because others have good things; emulation is the pain that you feel because you yourself do not have them.  Unlike envy, which is useless at best and self-defeating at worst, emulation is a good thing because it makes us take steps towards securing good things.

7. Make friends with people who pull you up rather than drag you down.


8. Never get into a relationship because you are bored, lonely, or insecure, or because society expects you to. 

9. The same also applies to having children.

10. Don’t expect to find perfect love, perfect virtue, or perfect wisdom in this world. These things simply do not exist in their idealized forms—or, at least, not outside our imagination.

11. Given the choice between laughing and crying, go with laughing. If you do end up crying, make sure you learn from it.

12. All of the above requires a great deal of self-confidence. Try to cultivate it: it comes with habit. And it is incredibly attractive.

13. The corollary here is: never be afraid. Or at least, never appear to be afraid. Fear is a magnet for bad luck.

14. If you don't appear to want something, you are far more likely to get it. More importantly, when you do want something, be sure that it is worthy of you. And remember: we are rich not only by what we have, but also and mostly by what we do not.

15. Never get angry. Just like fear, anger is a superfluous emotion that does far more harm than good. Most of a person’s actions and the neurological activity that they correspond to are determined by past events and the cumulative effects of those past events on that person’s patterns of thinking. It follows that the only person who can truly deserve your anger is the one who spited you freely, and therefore probably rightly! This does not mean that anger is not justified in other cases, as a display of anger—even if undeserved—can still serve a benevolent strategic purpose. But if all that is ever required is a strategic display of anger, then true anger than involves real pain is entirely superfluous.

16. Man is both a product and a victim of the world which he inhabits. He seldom actively chooses to endure the things that he does. Simply being conscious of this fact can help to increase your degrees of freedom, and it only takes one free action to change the course of an entire lifetime.

17. Find whatever it is that you love doing and get on with it, regardless of what other people might think. It won’t feel like work. And chances are you will be very good at it.
18. Avoid working for other people or, worse, faceless corporations. It's not psychologically healthy. And it's not a game you're ever going to win.

19. Think long term and have a lot of patience. The principal difference between the rich and the poor is that the rich made a plan and stuck with it.

20. When you do find success or, better still, happiness, don't expect anyone to be pleased for you. In fact, many people will actively resent you—even, sometimes, friends and family. Some people are small. Just accept it as collateral and move on.

21. Unless your work is your passion, you work so as to live and not vice versa. Spend at least half your waking hours simply reveling in the world around you. Never forget that our consciousness and its objects are the greatest gift of all.


 



 Source:  http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/hide-and-seek/201304/the-ultimate-graduation-speech