Trust your own judgement

Nobody can give you wiser advice than yourself. 
- Cicero 

Keep your own counsel.

Rely on your own intuition and act on advice with careful deliberation for the successful don't want your competition and the failed don't want you to succeed.   - Kathy Dent

No enemy is worse than bad advice. Sophocles


Teeth placed before the tongue give good advice. Unknown

 "The expectations of life depend upon diligence; the mechanic that would perfect his work must first sharpen his tools."  
- Confucius

Friendly counsel cuts off many foes. Shakespeare

The advice of elders to young men is very apt to be as unreal as a list of the hundred best books. Oliver Wendell Holmes

Fools need advice most, but wise men only are the better for it. Benjamin Franklin

We may give advice, but we cannot give conduct. Benjamin Franklin

The worst men often give the best advice. Proverb




Frivolous advice is quickly taken when urgency prevails. That breath of relief suffocated when we fail. Ogden Baines

Every new adjustment is a crisis in self-esteem. Eric Hoffer

If you want to understand a subject promise to speak on it. Lloyd George

The first person who stops by, whose advice you really don't want to hear, will see it immediately. Unknown

Often we can help each other most by leaving each other alone; at other times we need the hand-grasp and the word of cheer. Elbert Hubbard

When a thing is done advice comes too late. Thomas Fuller

You may give him good advice, but who can give him wit to take it. Thomas Fuller

In those days he was wiser than he is now, he used to frequently take my advice. Winston Churchill

It is easy when we are in prosperity to give advice to the afflicted. Aeschylus

When I look back on all my worries, I remember the story of the old man who said on his deathbed that he had had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which never happened. Winston Churchill

Trust not to your feelings for whatever they might be now, they will quickly be changed towards some other thing. Thomas A Kempis

One of the few good things about depression is that, like all pain, it is saying something. Myra Chave-Jones

She often gave herself very good advice (though she very seldom followed it). Lewis Carroll

The people sensible enough to give good advice are usually sensible enough to give none. John Mare

We give advice, but we cannot give the wisdom to profit by it. Rochefoucauld

Woman’s advice has little value, but he who won’t take it is a fool. Miguel de Cervantes

Have a place for everything and keep the thing somewhere else. This is not advice, it is merely custom. Mark Twain

If you cannot get rid of the family skeleton, you may as well make it dance. George Bernard Shaw

Advice, the smallest current coin. Ambrose Bierce

Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle. Philo of Alexandria

I always pass on good advice. It is the only thing to do with it. It is never of any use to oneself. Oscar Wilde

If thou may not continually gather thyself together, do it sometime at least once a day, morning or evening. Thomas  A Kempis

Three may keep counsel, if two be away. John Heywood

Where’s the man who counsel can bestow, still pleased to teach, and yet not proud to know. Alexander Pope

Here comes a man of comfort, whose advice Hath often stilled my brawling discontent. Shakespeare

Never listen to a phone call that isn't meant for you. Never read a letter that isn’t meant for you. Never pay attention to a comment that isn't meant for you. Never violate people’s privacy. You will save yourself a lot of anguish. Joseph Kennedy quoted by Ted Kennedy

More and more, I have come to see that to getting better from depression is to do something, even if it is only one small thing, such as recycling junk mail as soon as it comes through the mailbox, rather than finding the kitchen table so full of papers there is no space to eat. Quote from: climbing out of depression by Sue Atkinson

The helping hand you seek is most often at the end of your own arm. Proverb

God gave us the ability to make choices in our lives. If you allow someone else to make your own choices, then in fact you have made a choice. It is a choice to not be in control of your own life. The loss of this responsibility for your own life invariably has negative consequences and requires pain and massive effort to overcome. Margo Bennett

When the world is storm-driven and bad things happen, then we need to know all the strong fortresses of the spirit which men have built through the ages. Edith Hamilton

Don’t just write a to-do list write a to-be list. Karen Salmansohn

Few things are harder to put up with than the annoyance of a good example. Mark Twain

Books will speak plain when counselors blanch. Francis Bacon

Sing in the morning, acknowledge the reality of people’s feelings, be a treasure house of happy memories, take time for projects. Source: The Happiness Project by Gretchen Craft Rubin

In the multitude of counselors there is safety. Bible

Were we fully to understand the reasons for other people’s behavior, it would all make sense. Sigmund Freud

We give nothing so freely as advice. LA Rochefoucauld

Anecdote:  During the early 1700 century, one sister wrote to another, following the death of an infant: “Remember this, my sister you must think only about staying strong. You cannot let yourself go, for the sake of the other children. It is your duty now, and I suggest you fulfill it. … Don't lose control. Don't allow grief to become so overwhelming that it will destroy your health, because you will only hurt those who love you, without bringing back to life those who have ceased to be mortals.” Source: Lucia in the age of Napoleon by Andrea Robilant

DEFINITION and MEANING
Counsel and advice are vital, to some degree, in the lives of nearly everyone. Each of us, at some point, feels the need to seek the benefits of the concern and comfort of another, whether in personal or professional form. Still, gradually, one must begin the process of gentle but consistent self-healing.

On the other hand,

The light that a man receives by counsel from another is drier and purer than that which comes from his own understanding and judgment, which is ever infused and drenched in his affections and customs. Francis Bacon